If a person can’t see past the outward appearance of the beautiful person inside then it may be a warning flag about that person’s character.  I knew a man who married a woman because of her beautiful singing voice and flirtatious personality. 

After a few months, he told her that she needed her teeth fixed, because she could eat apples through a picket fence.  He was sincere in his remark and didn’t want to hurt her, but his lack of tactfulness devastated her tender feelings.  She didn’t want him to know how badly he had hurt her, so she fluffed it off as his lack of good upbringing and made a joke out of his knobby knees. 

Well, you guessed it, after a few years of marriage and several children, tolerating the cutting jabs gradually led to a genuine belief that they shouldn’t have gotten married.  One mate began to look for reasons to look around and then to allow the justification of unfaithful thoughts to interfere with what may have been a time for learning and understanding how to love and feel love. 

There is much more to this all too common scenario, but the main idea is that once contention entered into their marriage, it was easy for the Adversary to help one of the partners to make a wrong choice. 

Tags: Marriage Courtship Choices Tactfulness Contention

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