i've just figured out what forgiveness is suppose to be not what i want it to be in talking to a good friend who has also had her share of trauma, i learned in our conversation that iinorder for true healing to begin spiritually, we must forgive ourselves and then those that have done wrong to us. this person is so inspirational to me and i'm sure others. she made me see something i hadn't before and that is i need to forgive myself. i'm doing that now. i forgive myself for the two rapes and the abuse. it wasn't my fault that either happened to me. i feel the men who did this had rage in them. i don't know but i can speculate. my friend also said that she forgave her abuser so i need to forgive mine and i'm doing that now. I forgive my two rapist, the ex brother in law who moelested me and all the men whoever abused or cheated on me. it is there loss not mine. but what has happened has made me the strong person i am today. i'm greatfu for that because now i can go and help someone else experiencing what i've already been through. so the next time someone does you harm wither physical or mental forgive that person for what they've done and don't let it eat you up inside. Posted by anjilynn at 1:08 PM

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