09/20/2012 18:55:30

Hello,
I feel your frustration and confusion. My ex-husband and I were married & sealed in the Temple and all of our children were Born in the Covenant. He and I divorced civilly 16 1/2 years ago. He has now recently remarried civilly and has a desire to be sealed to her in one year. I am still trying to come to terms with all of this considering we have children involved. However, I have learned the following and it has helped me a great deal.

To answer your questions...
Your husbands children were BIC, Which means they were given special blessings that can never be taken from them AS LONG AS THEY LIVE RIGHTEOUS LIVES. Those children will always be sealed to their parents. There is no need for them to be sealed a second time, because they already have those blessings. Their sealing to their parents does not affect your husbands sealing to you or their mothers sealing to someone else. Think of them as being taken care of already.

Your husband can be sealed to you if you both desire, however you will need to be baptized and work with your Bishop and Stake President to become Temple worthy as stated by Gargantuan. This is a very easy and worthwhile process. I would not take this lightly. Make sure this is the man that you truly want to spend eternity with and prepare diligently with fasting and prayer. Your husbands sealing to his ex-wife will have no bearing on his sealing to you, especially if she is getting a cancellation. You should discuss this more with your Bishop and/or Stake President.

I believe that the child you have with your first husband would have to be adopted by your second husband or have permission from your first husband for that child to be sealed to you and your new husband. In the case of this child, it would be wise to wait until the child is an adult and allow that child to decide if he/she wants to be sealed to your new husband. This is another question you should talk with your Bishop or Stake president about. I say this about your child because of this next paragraph below....

My father divorced my mother when I was 5 yrs old. They were never married in the Temple. My father remarried a woman and a year later was sealed to her. If my father ever even thought of having us kids sealed to him and his new wife, I never would have done it and I would not have been extremely upset, for I loved my mother very much and would never have agreed to a sealing to someone else. Thankfully, he never asked us to be. A couple of years later, he divorced that woman and eventually many, many years later remarried my mother in the Temple sealing them together for eternity and us kids were sealed to the two of them on that day as well. My dad died from Cancer 1 month later.

Last but not least, to answer your final question.... No, your husbands ex-wife's child with her new husband is not sealed to anyone at this point. Child sealings and spouse sealings are completely separate. The child sealing has no bearing on a marriage sealing.

To give you some comfort regarding these two children who are not sealed.... They will have the opportunity to be sealed to their husbands or wives in the future, so they will not be left behind in any way. Think of it as a neighborhood... You will all be together in one neighborhood, but living in different houses. Sealings bring you together but doesn't glue you together, does that make any sense?

My daughter is a full time missionary on Facebook. You are welcome to contact her and ask questions, I'm sure she would love to talk with you. Her name is Sister Meagan Hicks. Also, it sounds funny but I like to go to Donny.com and read posts from him to others who have questions about the Church. I've had many questions answered there. One other source is LDS.ORG, my daughter also answers questions on that website. Most importantly, talk with your Bishop, he has been given divine revelation for the people in his ward.

Good luck to you, I hope this helps to give you some peace.

08/02/2012 16:02:26

There are some requirements that everyone who attends the temple must meet before he or she can attend a temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Baptism into the Church is the first prerequisite to attend any one of its temples.  There are no exceptions. Once baptized and confirmed a member of the Church and then received the Gift of the Holy Ghost, you can work with your Bishop and discuss the requirements to become temple worthy.  After you have done that, you will understand more about questions of a temple Sealing.  You and your Bishop should be able to discuss your "question" or any other questions you will have.  He can tell you about some of the important commitments that you will make and the importance of the Temple recommend and you will hold to attend the Temple to take out your own Endowments.  The Holy Spirit will help you understand what course you should follow after you have done that.  Have faith for God knows the intent of your heart and He will help you.