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Posted On 09/09/2012 20:48:57 by Lainee82
Hello everyone, I'm really depress right now and need some advice for my marriage. I have been married for over 7 years and have 3 beautiful children.. Last week my husband went to get a foot massage. He came home and cried to me and said he did something really bad. He said the lady did his foot massage put her hand inside his pants and he didn't say anything. He said she play with his private part for while. He felt terrible for doing that. I was in shock. My husband is a good father and husband. I have never thought something like this will happen. He has always been faithful to me. And so did I. We both come from broken family. And the reason my parents and his parents got divorce is because one of them were unfaithful to the other. I have never thought I will have to face this in my marriage. I could not eat or sleep for the last 3 days. I could not talk to anyone. I don't want to tell my mother because she will be worry for me. I can't talk to his mom because I love her and she has already been through that and to her we are one happy family. I don't want to make her sad either. My husband and I have not gone on a date for 3 or 4 months. I have been talking to him about we need to spend time together but he keeps on putting it off. He said he loves me but I feel like he does not. He fasted and talked with the Bishop about what happened. We have been going to Thai ward in Bangkok and we have been doing family home evening with the young single adults in the ward because all of them are only member in their family. We talked about it last night and I said let's just do it once a month and he asked why not at least twice a month. I got mad and not talking to him. I thought after what happened he would want to spend more time with me to make it up to me, to make me know that he does love me. But he got mad and said he wants to do twice a month because he wants to serve. Is it me being selfish ? I thought family is the most important thing and right now my family is not doing well and is it wrong of me to ask him to be with the family. I don't know what to do. I'm stuck here in Thailand with nobody to talk to. I just feel so lonely and unloved. Please pray for me and give me some advice. Thanks so much, Lainee

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From: kfive77
10/08/2012 15:04:57
My heart breaks for you. I can only offer two pieces of advise;

1. Pray continually,

2. read the scriptures as much a you can, estpecially those you love. If you do not have a favorite adopt mine. The first five books of the New Tesiment (they give the acount of Christ's love and life.) The Book of Mormon. Isaiah.

Your situation will be governend by the Bishop and D&C 42:23-29 depending on your Husbands future choices.

Seek solace in the hymns, prayer, and scriptures. I recomned you read D&C 122 when things get especially bad.

You do need a female friend, about your age that you can confide in. Seach the church for one, pray for God to send you someone to talk to.

God bless you lovely daughter of our Heavenly Father.


From: Lainee82
09/19/2012 18:29:16
Thank you sister Flores and Gretchen,

I meant a lot to me when I saw your comment. My husband already talked with the Bishop and he is trying to make it up to me. I believe that he will never make that mistake again. He promised me that. What I meant about we come from broken families is my mom and my dad both had an affair when they were married and my husband's father has the problem with staying faithful with his wife too. We both understand how painful it is to have a broken family. What I was in shock was my husband is a kind of man that all the other wants to find in their husband. He is a wonderful father and a loving husband and above all he loves the gospel and always willing to serve others. I have never worried about him going to get a massage before. I forgot that a lot of women here in Thailand would do everything to have an American husband. I know he made a mistake but he told me right away which made me feel that he still loves me and his family. I forgave him and pray everyday that we will never have to face this kind of trial on our life.
Thank you very much for your advises .


From: stephanie_w_flores
09/18/2012 12:20:16
ZHi Lainee,

First, I would like to let you know how much your Father in heaven loves you. Although you feel all alone. He is right by your side. Honestly I wouldn't know how to advise you on your situation. I wanted to share this one little statement given to me and I hope that it would inspire you. You wrote that both you and your husband were from broken homes of adultery, if I understood correctly. This is what was told to me regarding my past sins. "You have been washed clean of your sins and your past problems have been forgotten."

We are daughters of our Heavenly Father and with identity we come from a father who is caring and loving. We have a loving Savior who suffered what we are suffering. We are not alone. We can go to Him in the best of times and the worst of times. Don't despair. Remember that through hope faith is born and acting on that faith we gain a testimony.

I truly hope this brings a form of comfort.

Sincerely,

Sister Flores


From: Gretchen
09/15/2012 23:34:47
It sounds to me (and I could be wrong) that your husband wants a chance to redeem himself before God. I think you should offer to help at the young single adult ward, that way, you are with him, and he gets a chance to serve. Please read Mosiah 2:17 when you get the chance.

Hugs and good thoughts sent your way.


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