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Spouse no longer believes in LDS teachings or Christianity
Posted On 11/06/2012 13:57:22 by lostlove70
I've never blogged before. I'm in a difficult time in my life and any good advice may be able to help. I've been married for 5 years and have two kids. Over the last 5 month my spouse has informed me that she no longer believes in the LDS faith, or chrisianity. I haven't been the best spiritual leader of my home, I would define the last few years as us being partially active. We have tried to talk about religion and I have tried to understand where she is coming from with the hope that I could help her to find her testimony. Through this it seems she never really had one. She has tried to explain her new beliefs to me and I don't find any real value in it. The sad situation is the stress and turmoil is getting to be too much. I absolutely love my kids. I don't know what to do. When a core belief like religion is lost in a marriage what are the chances of it surviving? We are both still young and I admit I find myself thinking that calling it quits and starting over could be the best answer for both of us. She feels like love will see us through but I feel like everyday we are becoming more and more different. Do I stick it out and live my faith and pray that my wifes heart will be softened or do we seperate and start new lives without each other. I know of many people in the church and out that have stuck with it for the kids only to get a divorce later when the kids are teenagers and it seems to have more damage then, if they would have just went seperate ways when they were younger. not to mention the parents that feel they have waisted a lifetime with someone they don't love. I'm basically pondering to myself to determind if I still love my wife... and what am I going to do?

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From: king9804
02/23/2013 22:15:13
Don't give up on your marriage! In March I will be celelbrating 20 years with a man I deeply love. He informed last July, that he no longer believes in the LDS faith. It has absolutely crushed me. However, we both feel that a marriage has more to it than just religion. It has been very challenging but we have sought out counseling and it is helping. I'm learning to let go, after all aren't we trying to be like Christ? Learning to forgive and love? Easier said than done, that's for sure. I say hang in there!!
King9804


From: lajohnson0618
11/11/2012 07:12:09
My parents were married in the temple, and one year later my father told my mother that he no longer believed in God. My mom continued to be faithful. She always showed respect for my dad, but she took the spiritual training of her children into her own hands. She went through many difficult times, including my dad's excommunication and eventually a divorce. The divorce only lasted for 2 years and then my parents remarried. My mom was always active in her church callings and faithful in all that she did. After 37 years and much patience and love shown to my dad, he was baptized again. My parents' sealing had been cancelled when they were divorced, so my siblings and I were able to be in the temple with my parents when they were sealed the second time. Through everything, my mom was faithful to her covenants and unconditional in her love for my dad. You can't change your wife, but if you continue to pray for help and to love her, you will be blessed, whether she comes back to full activity in the gospel or not. In all that you do,you should always remember to humbly accept counsel from the Lord and from your church leaders. May God bless you and your family as you find your way to what He would have you do.


From: Praetorian_Brow
11/08/2012 04:45:49
Which is more important, loving your wife for who she is, or loving her for what you want her to be? Yes, I understand that discovering a belief system is no longer universal is difficult, however, you need to ask yourself why do you think removing the relationship is an option at all.


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