Something that really stuck out in my Marriage Prep classes recent discussions has been the subject of worry. My professor mentioned that if we worry too much about the things that could possibly go wrong and always plan for those things, it might bring on some self-fulfilling prophecy. He was mostly mentioning it reference to planning ahead for the future and women only receiving higher education so that on the chance their husband dies or divorces them that they will have a means to earn income. (This topic was also discussed in the recent news broadcast with the newly ordained First Presidency of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, during which it was reiterated that all should recieve as high a level of education as possible not only as a percaution for future tragedy, but also as a means to expand their minds.)
When I thought about worries in general, I realized that I do way to much of that. I worry about everything in a relationship. Every time I've dated someone, regardless to if we ever progressed far enough as to discuss the possibility of marriage, I worry about all sorts of things. Recently the things I've worried about most have been very small things and they make me panic mainly because they have been indicators in the past of a forth and coming break-up. Therefore, if I see any sign of the these things, I automatically start worrying. I don't think that this is a good thing in any type of relationship and is probably something I should try my best to elliminate before I even get close to the altar.
Though I've never been married, I could imagine how over-active worrying could very negatively influence the relationship of husband and wife. In a state of worry it is rather hard to think clearly and often inaccurate conclusion are unjustifiably jumped to. This can lead to unfounded disappointment, anger, and break downs in communication, the later of which should be constantly avoided if at all possible.
I don't know how to worry less, since it's acutally I've had a problem with for most of my life. So, I'm throwing this question out there and would appreciate any and all advice on the subject: How can I stop worrying so much, especially about things that I have no control over and may possibly never even happen?

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