I feel  for you !!!  I have been in your shoes at the  time I was 6 months  pregant  with my youngest and  had a 2 1/2 yr old  you  have to  remember  most important that you have to take care yourself and your children first.  No  matter how much you love him  you cant change him. He is  going to have to want to change hisself and not before he is ready. 

You need to get a good support system for you and your kids. Talk to family and friends to see if they can help you. Contact your local AA  chapter and they will help you find a  A-ALON support group for  you.  Be prepared healing is  not a eay thing to do.  We have become enablers and we have to learn a way to break those habits of excusing his behavior.  Remember you are somebody Special.  You are a Daughter of God  you are are a mother you are a sister you  are a friend.  

Please contact me if you want to talk I will help you as much as I can

You have a special situation.  I am praying.  But do not leave those children with him anymore.  I had to get daycare when my husband was sick with cancer.  He wanted to take care of the children, but couldn't, and I couldn't safely leave them with him.  He was very angry when I put them in a daycare, but I wasn't his wife or his therapist or anything at that moment -- I was my kid's mother at that point.

Your husband is sick.  You don't have to hate him, but no one is expecting you to just "take" this situation in the name of eternal marriage.  Get help for yourself and your children, and for your husband if he is open to it.  Twospirit has good advice (as do the others).  If he's not open to it, I personally don't feel you have much much obligation to him.  But don't take my word for it.  Seek counsel from the Lord and priesthood leaders.

That would be infuriating! 

It sounds as if you're husband is a full-on alcoholic, it is an addiction and disease and debilitating to all around someone like that. Only he can choose to admit and seek help or deny it. It is not your problem to do so.

However do what you can for yourself and to protect your children.

A first step to empower yourself is to  find an Alanon Group nearby (these are for spouses, or children of Alcoholics), they are associated with Alcoholics Anonymous. You'll have support of people who are dealing with the same thing, and learn how not to enable him in his further addiction. You will learn how to grow and heal yourself and deal with issues you may not have realised you have. You will find there are more people than you realise dealing with these issues, you are never alone. And yes one enables an addictive person by keeping it quiet, hiding it or ignoring it.

A website to find a group in your area :  www.al-anon.alateen.org/

For record purposes write down when and when this happened and report it to the relevant authorities. 

Become an empowered woman with choices (which you do have the power to become as one of God's children).

Good Luck and God Bless.

I feel your frustration and anger... he needs a wake up call.... problem is, he probably won't even recognise one if it hit him on the head.  But you need to put yourself and the kids 1st... easier said than done.... I know.  Perhaps make friends with someone who you think could also do with me time.... then perhaps you can help each other out.

I agree with brother01.

And, I wouldn't be leaving the kids with him.  You have to get out of the 'victim' role and become proactive.  It's not easy -- but it is very empowering.  You don't need to be a doormat.

You do need a break --- but, can't trust him to give it.  There are services available!  Can you talk to the RS Pres or Bishop?  That is where your ward family can come in to play.  Don't HIDE the issues.  If you do --- you are enabling them to continue!

Instead of asking 'why', ask 'what am I going to do about this?'.  Then, you'll be thinking of solutions instead of trying to figure out someone else's problems and thought processes.

'his kids'?

I'd report him to the authorities for child neglect and endangerment.  Be thankful they are not your kids.