I have only been a wife for about a year now, but I am at a loss, I have always been the kind of woman to have a job and take care of herself and latley that has not been the happenings. I am staying with my parents since my husband is away in the Army just in Louisianna for a month but I have to be here since I just had a baby a little over a month ago and it is my first so we thought it would be a good idea to have a little help and since I don't have a job I flew to Idaho and I am not doing very well in my mothers home. She works since my dad got sick and can't anymore, and she wants to be at home doing what I am doing and I would give anything to not have to clean up after everyone. So we fight a lot and I try to see things from her side that this is her house and I need to do things her way but I am starting to think that the only one that can do things my mothers way is my mother. I think that it is never going to be good enough because she wants to be doing it and can't and my dad would love to not be sick and have my mom back home because when I am not here it is his job to clean toilets and make dinners and wash dishes. All I have to say is good luck. But this has also helped me to see that I want to be the wife to my husband that my mom has been to my dad. I want my husband to come home everyday and know that the house will be clean, the dinner will be ready, and that he can talk to me about the kind of day that he had. That is who my mother was to my dad and now that the roles are reversed I see the strain that it puts on them but they are doing it and they are adapting and they are happy for the most part. This has been hard but they are getting through it. It just shows me that the woman is supposed to be in the home and the man is supposed to provide and changing those roles is a challenge it is a trial that they have to get through. And I have to learn to be a softer woman and let my husband provide the financial things while I provide the nuturing things and it is going to be a trial for both of us I am afraid. But I just have to say that woman you need to fight to stay in the home because you can ask my mom it is worth fighting for it is worth having. It is where we are the most natural and we need to stay in the home and raise a family and not let financial things run us out of where we need to be. My mom had to leave and there are things that happen that can not be helped but make sure that it is a must when you leave and not a want. Learn to love homemaking and it will become a desire that you always have. It is in fact where we belong.

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