The things I would look for that are beyond the skin is something I have to think harder about. Naturally she has to be fun, outgoing, and good with children like I said before but there is one thing that sticks out to me. She should be someone where we could be anywhere doing anything and I would still be enjoying it because its with her. There have been times when I've been somewhere that should have been fun but weren't because I wasn't able to share it with a friend. I also mentioned before that she should like me for me- and be there for me through thick and thin. A sense of humor is always good too. One that can be clever, quirky, and even random on occasion. That kind of humor has attracted me to some girls I didn't name in the other blog. I'll go ahead and say she should be a good cleaner and cook- I'm not very good at either but will do them if I must. Intelligence also plays a factor. More or less about my own level of intelligence so that neither of us feel stupid. I heard once from a young married man that his wife was exactly like him except she was a girl. I guess that is something I want too(common interests just work). With being in the church you can almost never go wrong as all of the young women are raised with good values and standards. It's just a matter of discerning how seriously they take their religion.

One thing that I think would be really cool would be if she knows hot to play guitar. I play the drums so then we could jam. It's been such a long time since I've had a jam session with my friends. It was so fun. I miss it. She should be naturally feminine but be able to toughen up and not be afraid to get dirty either. I enjoy camping and would like to do that kind of thing with my family and enjoy the natural beauty of the world together.

I've heard of people (mostly girls and maybe its just hollywood) wanting a "good kisser". I don't get that. Kissing seems awkward anyway but if it's a kiss with someone you love it'll be a good kiss. My only lip-to-lip kiss was from my 5-year-old niece. It was nothing so it all must be an emotional thing whether or not its a good kiss. So that's not something I worry about.

What it comes down to is how I feel when I'm around them. My worries go away, I can be myself without holding back, and be able to talk easily with them. That last one is a big one for me. I have trouble just talking with people but there have been people with whom it was easy to actually verbally talk to even when my nerves make it hard to even think.