Some explanation is needed here….

Last Friday night, my wife (love her dearly) came at me with the Church is a cult, they separate women and men like Islam, they tear apart families, etc. etc.  There was much wailing an gnashing of teeth.

On Saturday, I decided my investigation of the Church needed to stop in order to keep my marriage together.  I took deleted my blogs and pictures here, consolidated all my LDS literature onto a single bookshelf for archiving purposes, and generally felt very sorry for myself.  That’s why all my old blogs appear new again.

Anyway, as things calmed down, my wife and I discussed the possibility of me continuing, provided I went to her church once in awhile, and made it a point to spend more time with her and less with “those Mormons”.  I agreed.  I went to Sacrament Meeting on Sunday with the intent of going to Sunday School and skipping the Priesthood meeting to get back earlier and go for a walk with my Mrs.

When I got to Church on Sunday, I mentioned this “situation” to the missionary I have been working with lately.  He must have spilled the beans because I got pulled out of Sunday School to go see the Bishop - I thought for sure I was in trouble.  Other than introductions and greetings, I have never spoken with him at length.

Wow, what a relief. He counseled me that my wife was probably scared (true), that there were many couples where one is LDS and the other is not, that any of the women in the Ward would drop everything for a chance to chat with her – on her terms, any time.  And, here’s the one I brought home that really turned things around for us, the family is ALWAYS more important than ANY Church meeting. If she needs me on Sunday for whatever reason, my place is there – not at the meetinghouse.

I went home and we took the bike up to one of our favorite day hiking trails.  I told her all about my talk with the Bishop and how I really want to move forward with all this “Mormon stuff”, and do it in a way that was sensitive to her attitudes, told her about the family always taking precedence over church time, and how I hoped this could all be a positive thing for us.  She agreed, stating that she felt like I was making a huge change without taking her along.  Not that she wants to go along with any of this my any means.  “You can’t go from nothing to being a Mormon, that’s too extreme!”, she says 

So, we're fine at home again, probably better than ever.  I'm still wondering how me going to her church every other weekend, and her going to mine - never, is equity, but I suppose that is part of "marriage math" or something.  At least we have everything out on the table where we can work with it.