I have been thinking lately about respect. Yesterday my family got together to visit a museum, on the way out of the museum my mother offered the front passenger seat to my husband because he has very long legs. My husbandâ€™s response was very sweet, â€śNo Mom, that is your seat, I would never take that from you.â€ť In my family when I was growing up my mom would usually sit in the front seat and yet as time went on and we got bigger my brother began to demand to sit in the front seat. Though this was just a small thing it was one of the things he would do to that to me seemed disrespectful of women. Because of this when I got married I made sure that my husband understood that I wanted a man who respected women.
Since then whenever we are driving and there are others in the car my husband insists that I sit up there with him, he opens doors for me and is very sweet and loving toward me. It is something I really treasure in my husband.
What I have found lately is that acknowledging him for the things he does and being respectful of him in public seems to make him feel better about himself and about our marriage.
In the past he would bring up to me how he did not appreciate being torn down in front of others, so lately I have been trying to build him up in front of others. And to tell the truth it seems to be helping a lot. I can tell that he appreciates it.
Men should definitely respect women, but if there is a mutual respect there then I think the whole relationship goes better. And it allows the relationship to function on more equal footing. For some reason there is a belief out there that by putting men down women will become more equal, and conversely there seems to be a belief that by putting women down men are more in control. Instead it creates a war between the sexes with hard feelings on both sides. I think that with a mutual respect on both sides we can have better relationships no matter which gender we belong to.
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