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Caring For a Handicapped Friend
Posted On 04/27/2009 23:01:42 by Gargantuan

 

My Friend Robert

Robert was a shy quiet friend that most would shun at first, due to his physical disabilities. He had a hearing and speaking disability, but he easily compensated for those social handicaps with a friendly personality that was like reading from a page of Andrew Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." His sincere interest in another person was contagious and those near my friend would often find themselves drawn into a pleasant conversation with him. He would often say when shaking the hand of new friend,  "Are you scared of me?" The new friend would say, "No,I'm not scared of you."  Robert would respond with a smile and say,"Then why are you shaking?".  This would nearly always put a comfortable smile on the new friend's face.  Robert was truly an unassuming person and his kindness made others feel at ease, if they took the time to really listen to him.

One day, he was hit by a car while walking in a neighborhood parking lot. He didn't drive a car or bicycle. From then on, he limped as he walked while using a cane for stability. I tried to always be around whenever he needed a ride to go anywhere. He was very independent and rarely called me for transportation.  Sometimes he would be limping along the road and I would be surprised, but happy to see him.  I'd always stop my car and pick him up to take him to his destination.

I appreciated him allowing me to be his friend and to be of service. I told him once that he was my best my best friend. He responded in a shy matter of fact way by saying, "Me too." It has been easier for me to be his accepting friend, because of experiences with my own limitations.

He died recently and many who took time to get to know him will miss him. I have added a few details and comments written about Robert below.

Note to His Friends:

 

"Hi, I wanted to let you know that Robert died last night at about 12:55 A.M.. He had been suffering from pneumonia and was hospitalized for those symptoms. During his stay in the hospital he suffered a stroke which paralyzed the right side of his body. He was unable to eat food except to swallow small pieces of ice and Jello. I was with him just before he died. His nephew and I gave him a Priesthood Blessing just hours before he passed into eternity."

I'm sure he's much happier now in his heavenly home and in the Presence of his Father in Heaven. I know nothing yet of what is planned for his funeral arrangements. I will let you know as soon as I know. Pictures of Robert are attached (not in this blog).

Many friends have been involved in one way or another in Robert's life. Many have been influenced for good by his honest example. Mike "Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight." Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Robert's Obit

 

 

Guy Robert passed away early in the morning. He was born in Inglewood, California.

He graduated from Inglewood High School and worked for years at the Cerebral Palsy Foundation. He later moved to Ogden, Utah. In the later years of his life, moved to Orem, Utah.

Robert obtained his Amateur Radio License, enjoyed playing his organ, and visiting people at the senior center. He was active in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and was a devoted home teacher.

He is survived by his mother, and his three brothers: of Las Vegas, Nevada; , of Provo, Utah; and of Orem, Utah.

The viewing will be held on Tuesday, September 26, from 6-8 p.m., at Sundberg-Olpin Mortuary, Orem, Utah. A viewing and funeral service will be held on Wednesday, September 27. Both services being held at Sundberg-Olpin Mortuary. The viewing will be held from 9-9:45 A.M.. The funeral will start at 10 A.M.. He will be laid to rest in the Aultorest Cemetery in Ogden, Utah.

A Few Responses to Robert's death

 

I just heard your phone message left about an hour ago. I'm so sorry to hear the sad news of Robert's passing. I know this must be very difficult for those who loved him, saying goodbye to another choice friend whom they loved. You and others were truly great friends to him, both in life and then in his sickness & release from this life.

I have been touched by Robert through your inspirational emails about him & some of the experiences you shared on the "singles scene." Those were choice stories you shared & for which I am grateful. They taught me a lot.

"I know that Robert was a very special son of our Heavenly Father, and that you saw this in him, he was a very special soul and your loving kindness & service to Robert as his loyal friend was truly Christ-like. You were always there for him to help & encourage him.....sort of like you have done for me and I know many others....he was blessed to have you in his life."

"It was fitting, then that you were with him right before he slipped into eternity, and it was so nice that you were able to participate in offering a priesthood blessing in his behalf, to help him on his journey home to Heavenly Father."

"Just think what a grand celebration there will be when the two of you meet again, having laid aside all earthly disabilities & sorrow for the joys of heaven... and both of you then in perfect form!"

"What a great day, to know that those singles dances on earth will be much different in heaven, and Robert will have his pick of the many beautiful angels there in attendance!! It'll be a great blessing for him to get married there."

"My thoughts are with you and his family & may the Lord bless & comfort you all in your loss....may you all have come to your mind happy memories & touching moments and a sweet peace in the happy thought of where Robert is & how great he must be feeling now."

"Three cheers for Robert, he just graduated. And three cheers for you .....for being the best friend Robert could ever have."

"Thanks I know others who perhaps are less sensitive than I will surely appreciate your photos & the care you took in taking them to share with Robert's loved ones."

"Thanks for sending this to me. Probably few people I have known and know now are pure in heart as Robert. I'm glad he's released from this mission and has moved on to a better place."


"Thank you so much for letting me know. I am sad, but yet I know he is truly now at peace and outside the physical struggles of earth. You are such a good friend to him and I will try to attend his funeral if at all possible. In case I can't, would you please provide an address at the funeral home or his mother's so I can send something? I appreciated the pictures, too. My heart went out to Robert. He was so bright and sweet and such an endearing person. May he jump for joy in the spirit world...I know he is celebrating his return to home."

 

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