In the general sense, every culture, including the church, has time honored built-in mores and values, social norms, and thus expectation which in fact is what happens in every social group. When a person chooses or circumstances dictate that a path different and away from the norm be followed it is going to be noticed. It is unfortunately unavoidable.
It becomes difficult to deal with because of the internal tension and cognitive dissonance it creates. There is the socially (do not forget doctrinal) expected behavior which is almost like a right of passage for young men in the church; and then there is what the young man chooses to do or is forced to do on account of certain circumstances.
Whatever it is, I think people function within the socio-cultural norms (it could be outside of Utah) and such expectations are part of the environment and thus they will always be prone to ask such questions. Sorry, tough deal.
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