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Originally Posted by jimuk
Please enlighten us to your beliefs, and what the reasons you think the lds family stopped their children playing alongside your children, i am just curious.
As already said, the were individual members, wow there is so much expected from mormons
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I don't know how it is today, but fifteen years ago, in my neighborhood, it was a problem.
I had the exact same thing happen with my children, although with my son it was twenty years ago, and with my daughter it was fifteen.
A friend of mine, when moving to Utah from another state, even had her daughter picked up by the bus after school that she thought was taking her home. Instead, it took all of the children to primary, and she was terrified because she knew nothing about it, and thought she was lost. Yet, the members could not understand why her mother was so upset.
One time a sweet little boy was visiting my son. They were both about eight years old. The boy's parents were divorcing, and he was terribly traumatized.
There was a knock on my door and a man was standing there wanting to take a survey. It turned out he was a dictionary salesmen, but I didn't realize it at the time. I told him he could come in but that I was divorced, and he would only be able to talk to me.
In front of this little boy, he rudely insisted he could only talk to stable families, and a family without a father was not stable. All while these two little boys were standing there at the front door. My son's little friend started sobbing.
Another instance is where my neighbor babysat my daughter while my husband and I were at work. Her "best friend" was one of this family's children; yet, she often rejected my daughter, and it hurt her terribly.
For example, her friend would tell my daughter that we were evil because we drank coffee. Of course, my daughter was so hurt and confused, and wanted to fit in so badly, she repeated the little girl's comments to us telling us God did not want us to drink coffee. This went on until I was able to find a different babysitter.
But then, when the little girl had no one to play with, she called my daughter, who would get so excited. It broke my heart to watch this.
Who is to blame for these incidents? I am, of course. I should have done whatever it took to make sure she was somewhere emotionally safe, and I did not do that.
But for those of you who don't believe this really happens, ask yourself just how you would know about it if it was? Your child is not likely to tell you at the dinner table, "Oh, I decided to ostracize Annie today."
Elphaba