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It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. For me, I was afraid of marrying someone who would go inactive because of my dad leaving, and it was really hard on my mom, so I had concerns about marrying a return missionary because I wanted to make sure the Gospel was a huge priority (but my dad went and he says that was to make his parents happy, so that's no guarantee). A guy I dated hadn't gone, but I think it was his overall behavior that turned me off, thinking he might leave the church someday. My friend married a great guy who never went on a mission and he chose to join the military instead. She never had any issues with that. My brother didn't go on his mission until he was 21 and I think he got more out of it because he waited until he was ready.

Anyway, people are nosey. "When are you going to have a baby? When are you going to have another baby? Why aren't you married?" My friend was judged as being unrighteous because she didn't have a baby for 8 years, which she decided was the right decision because of how unstable her marriage was. She didn't want to bring a baby into a family where they were yelling at each other all the time and possibly going to get divorced. People need to respect personal revelation on these issues.