I thought the same thing when I was going through my divorce and bankruptcy. People were saying the same things. I thought "How on earth would you know??" 5 years later, things are better. I don't remember the exact moment things got better, it was a gradual process.
Good luck VoL. Not to sound like a cliché, but, Things will get better.
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I used to eat a lot of natural foods, then I found out how many people die from natural causes.
"He's harmless. Back in the '60s he was part of the free speech movement at Berkeley. I think he did a little too much LDS." ~ Captain Kirk in Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home
Why do the Drive-up ATM's have Braille instructions?