[candyprpl]

I've read most of the posts but not all, so if I say something someone has already said, I apologize.

In your original post you said you and your wife were separated at the time? Not that that makes it okay to flirt with someone else and kiss this person -- but your wife might be a little more understanding about the situation? I don't know your wife - of course - so I don't know how she'll react. I understand that she said she would leave you if she found out that something like this happened -- it's a lot easier to say something like that than it is to carry out. I also don't know how strong your relationship is or if you have Heavenly Father as the third party in your relationship -- but if you do have these things then I would suggest that you do what everyone else has already suggested. My experience is that secrets are just as damaging as the act itself. I know that it won't be easy and that you are worried about your kids but I still feal that 'the secret' will hurt them more than the truth, in the long run. If this had happened to me and the guilt feeling wasn't going away, I would need to go to the Bishop and discuss this with him.

Many years ago (long, long before I joined the church) my husband and I had a similar situation, except I was the one who had flirted and had allowed some kissing (one time) to happen. I hated myself -- I loved my husband and I couldn't understand how I could let something like that happen. The guilt became too unbearable and I told him. He was hurt and mad but we talked and talked and talked and I gained his trust back. We loved eachother and that's what we focused on. We made sure that romance was part of the healing process.