[Soulsearcher]

i sat in a conversation a few years ago with 4 LDS mothers. They all had daughters in early teens who were starting to notice boys, and all the mothers were starting to set expectations about guys they wanted their girls to end up with. I was part of the conversation but kept quiet for the first bit. Each mother said the first and highest priority for their list was the guy had to be a RM, this was more important than anything else. As they all sat beaming ear to ear ad patting them selves on the backs i let out a rather dismisive laugh. They all kinda got a lil annoyed with me and sarcasticaly asked what i thought was more important.

"The most important thing on my list or the guy who dates my lil girl is that he treats her like she's gold. He respects her and loves her more than life and will do anything and everything in his power to make her happy and never hurt her"

They all went a lil red in the face and i could tell they were embarassed by missing such an obvious thing, and tried to cover that of course that's something a RM would do, so it was assumed in their statmeant. I reminded 2 of them they were divorced from the most selfish hateful abusive men....both RM's. The only one still married and hopefully in love in the room was the woman who didn't marry the RM. Oddly at the end of the conversation their point of view didn't change, but one of the girls was listening in and her and i have talked since, She want's an RM, but not at the cost of what's more important, and i'm proud of her for that.