I can relate to this! This is my third site, as I search for friendly respectful people to converse with. I was motivated to go online because of Elder Ballard's admonition, but have encountered a lot of nastiness.

Occasionally I visit the old sites, and am quickly reminded why I left. One of the problems I've found is that the majority of posters are young (teens and 20's), and blatantly immature. Many young people are great, but the rude ones just seem to be noisier and more aggressive. Of course many of the older posters could use a lesson in respect also.

One site the ex-LDS were among the problem. The other site, even some of the LDS posters, along with the non-religious were abusive.

Which raises the question: Why do non-religious people post in religion-based forums?

All in all, it's kind of depressing.