I've noticed a lot of these topics are about abusive relationships and I am seeking some advice but not for anything abusive, more neglect. I have been married for nine years and have six children, one of which has passed away. That was the turning point in my marriage. At the time I was supporting my husband and his feelings because he constantly told me that I was the strong one and I couldn't cry because it would make him cry. I was the dutiful wife and didn't mourn my baby like I needed to. Everything from the time we found out about his problems during pregnancy to the end of the funeral was about my husband. I supported him and got him through the whole ordeal, but now he won't talk about it. Since then I feel like he has put my feelings aside a lot. I lost my trust in him and that closeness we were getting during the first few years of our marriage. I tried for so long to support him in all he does. Our most recent event has been a long move so he could return to school to get a better job. Things just got worse the few months after the move. He now doesn't want to do school. I am upset because he moved us away from my family, our house, and everything our kids knew to a place I don't want to live. I told him that I would move if and only if he was serious about school and that this is what he really wanted. Now he has changed his mind. Another reason I don't trust him. There are many more details about our marriage but this is the jist of it. I finally gave up. I can't keep ignoring my feelings and having him not listen to me and not respect me. I tried to be the good LDS wife for so long but I don't know if I can keep going. We talked about counseling, but will that really get him to listen to me or will it be a waste of time? I just want him to care and really listen and acknowledge my feelings and emotions.
