[SisterofJared]

Pam, if you read the whole post, I don't understand what is confusing. But let me state it clearer.

Someone mentioned that one day hopefully all the races will be so intermixed that it will simply be one race. Anyway, that's how I understood their post.

And I replied that the only problem I have with that is that in order to get to that point.... well, if I was just having babies today, and married a different race, I would be sad to see that none of my children would look like me. Cacasians genes aren't that strong... so when you marry someone with brown eyes and you have blue eyes, usually the baby will have brown eyes. Usually olive skin genes are stronger than light skin genes, etc. So when a white person marries a black person, generally you have a black baby. And there is nothing wrong with that.... but if in your heart you want to have a baby that looks like you, you won't have.

There is nothing WRONG with that.... but there is also nothing wrong with wanting to have a child that looks like you. It's great fun seeing yourself in your children. Recently at my sisters house, my granddaughter and her granddaughter sat side by side. Both babies are 1 year old, born within days of each other. It was fun to see that both were the spitting image of their grandmas!

We look at family pictures and see whose ears someone has, whose nose or whose eyes. It's a normal part of being part of a family. And if we became one race... the chance to have our child look like us would be lost to many.

If you loved someone of a different race, it probably wouldn't matter at all. In fact, you would be happy to see that your child looked like their father/mother.

Does that clear it up for you? I confess that I fell in love with a caucasian because that is who I dated. I grew up in a time when dating outside of my race or my religion was discouraged. A general authority once told me that marriage was difficult enough, and that to marry outside of one's race added even more struggles, and for that reason it was recommended that one marry their own race. That was in the early 80s. I think that has changed a great deal.... I remember being in high school and a woman on my street had a bi-racial marriage and it was shocking. Today it is nothing. Well, almost nothing. We do still run around like the little wooden Wimmicks's in Max Lucado's book, giving each other stars or grey dots. For the most part, we don't give those based on race. But there are some who still do.

Any questions? I want you to understand that there is no disrespect or ill feeling toward any race in my comment about babies looking like the parents...

SoJ