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Originally Posted by ZionWoman
Okay, Just one more before, I leave.
I guess what I want to know is what is being done for the PARENT and the rest of the family? It's good to save the child, I'll concede but would you just turn your back on the child's mom?
Do we not believe that Heavenly Father sent this child to this parent for a reason? Would this child not be an influence for good in the life of the parent? Some of you have overcome some appalling childhoods. Would you feel better if you were abandoned? Really?
By all means. Throw away your problems. Give them to the State to deal with. Why should you have to deal with it yourself?  |
But when these people decide that their children are "problems", it's the children who suffer. You can't force people to "deal with it".
In my DH's extended family, there is most deffinately one example of someone who wishes her parents had just abdoned her. They did not want a daughter (they raised three older sons just fine, with no issues) and took out their dislike of her by keeping food from her and sexually assaulting her for years. As an adult she spent months as an in-patient at a mental institution, and several years as an out-patient to work through the baggage they left her with. The parents didn't WANT to deal with their disdain of having a daughter (at least not in a positive way), and back when this happened there weren't the social services there are now to help protect children in these kinds of situations.
Sure, she's an absolutely wonderful person now, and lives a wonderful life, but that's IN SPITE of what she had to overcome, not
because of it.
(but then I'm also not one to believe that everything happens for a reason. sometimes things happen because people make horrible decisions)