I would have to agree with zookeeper. Telling her would not add anything of value to the relationship. She can not help not do you require her support currently to overcome the situation since it is over and done and a long time has elapsed. Disclosure has its place and time and a role to play under certain circumstances. This is not one of them.
In cases like this it is about being practical and pragmatic. Disclosure could bring pain, suffering, heartache, jealousy, anger, emotional separation and resentment. And no, it will NOT make the relationship stronger but rather, potentially, fracture and damage it irreparably. In this particular case, follow the counsel of your Bishop.
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