I hope you haven't told her yet.
The timing of Information is critical - as Critical as the action. Imagine if Jesus at the first day of Ministry had said....Hey everyone I am God!.
First use your hurt conscience to learn about "Unconditional Love" and then Live it with your wife and others.
With unconditional love....you will learn.....
1. To have patience that you never thought that you had with your spouse.
2. To Cease to criticize your spouse. It won't matter if your spouse fails in anything. Instead you will learn to advise and teach without coercion or force, but in gentleness, patience and forgiveness.
3. To forgive all the time. It is amazing how easily forgiveness can be given...
4. To not judge the person.
5. In the end it will banish all fears.
With "Unconditional Love" it does not mean that we do not express disappointments or wants and needs and desires to our spouse. It means that we can understand our Spouse point of view and their failures to meet any part of our expectations. "Unconditional Love" does not "compel" nor "condones any type of Forces to be applied" Because we shall always have the Love of GOD in our heart and the fruits of this love is in our expression of patience,
understanding our spouse from her point of view, also forgiveness, mercy are always present with us. By these fruits one may know who has come unto Christ....Again the complete acceptance of our Spouse which is part of "Unconditional Love" - who amongst us do not wish to be completely accepted warts and all by our Spouse just as we are? Who but the most hardened of hearts can leave such a person who has been expressing this type of love in a marriage?
Once you are able to live this love with the timing of GOD you can tell her. In any case....It will be extremely hard for her to leave you if you had been living "Unconditional Love" with her for a while.
With "Unconditional Love" that last things that shall leave you is your fears. For fears cannot exist with this love. And if she does leave you, after you have shown her this "type of Love" then it shall fall on her head....a person who has learned "Unconditional Love" is then able to receives it at the hands of GOD that person is never again alone or in fears.
Peace be unto you
bert10
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Originally Posted by robbiewinters
I have been married for 10 years and have always been completely faithful. I have never flirted with another girl and my wife is the only woman I have had any relations with. We went through a bad spell a couple of years ago and I started flirting (I thought harmlesslessly with a workmate). One thing led to another and we ended up kissing. This happened a few times over a couple of weeks. I realised how stupid this was. I stopped it. I broke off contact and got a new job where I don't see her. Do you think I should tell my wife. I am certain that she will end the marriage if I do. Is it better just to keep this to myself and never do it again. Would this be considered sinful not to confess. Do I need to tell my bishop who will then probably tell me to discuss with my wife?
Any advise please?
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