Ram, if you're still around and still dealing with this problem, I'd invite you to consider these thoughts -
1. Have you talked over the entire situation with your branch president? If you haven't, that seems to be the next logical step. You said he isn't talking to you, and that's a serious problem that needs to be addressed if it persists, but perhaps he'll let you speak to him and you can start there. Set up an appointment with his executive secretary and ask him (the exec sec) to schedule you at a time when you can take a while if needed. In the interview, start at the very beginning and talk about the whole situation. Don't forget to talk about his feelings toward you. You have a right to know if your priesthood leader has ill feelings toward you. Hopefully this will open up some dialog and bring about some healing.
If that doesn't bring a solution and your priesthood leader still harbors ill feelings toward you (and you need to be absolutely certain that that's the case) then InnerGold is right, you should seriously consider involving your branch president's priesthood leader. In an interesting twist, the stake president turns out to be the son of your branch president and the woman at the center of your problem. That seems on the surface to be a problem, but it might not be so if your stake president is humble enough to take the situation seriously. In fact, it could turn to your favor - As InnerGold mentioned, being their son he is probably very familiar with the character flaws in your branch president and his wife. He'll find your story very believable and and be very able to empathize with you. Perhaps he'd be able to help all three of you understand each other's feelings and perspectives better. He may even discover in praying about the situation that the time has come for calling a new branch president (although that's not something you should ask for). And if you aren't able to resolve it with the stake president, then you might consider going to the next rung up on the chain of authority (I think this would be the Area President, but I'm not certain).
To be clear, I don't know what kinds of things this sister has done to make your church life so difficult, but I don't see that as the major problem here. The reason I'm recommending such an acute response is that the situation seems to have created a rift in your relationship with your priesthood leader - and more particularly, in his feelings toward you. It's a problem when someone has ill feelings toward their priesthood leader, but it's a much bigger problem when it's the priesthood leader nursing those kinds of feelings toward those he's supposed to shepherd and allowing that to affect his decisions. Then his leaders (the leader's leaders) need to know about it and ensure that it is corrected.
2. Be open to the possibility that you might have perceived things differently than they were meant or intended. Be ready to accept responsibility for anything you might have said or done which might have contributed to the situation - even if only because others misperceived it. Be ready to forgive. Be ready to love and support and sustain again. As the late Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, one of the tests of discipleship is to drink from the bitter cup, without becoming bitter.
3. Take comfort in knowing that neither bishops nor stake presidents are given absolute authority to suspend (take official disciplinary action against) anyone. If you are unjustly disciplined, you can appeal to higher authority in the Church. Plus, in order to do any such thing to you, they would have to hold a special council involving the branch president's counselors and a couple others if done at the branch level, and the stake president's counselors and the entire stake high council if done at the stake level. I'd be very surprised if they took it that far.
4. If you'd like further advice from forum members here, you need to start a new thread on the advice board with an appropriate title. That will get you more responses from more people. Describe the problem as you've done in this thread, and synopsize the advice you've already received (to prevent duplicate advice). Then edit your first post in this thread, adding that you've started a separate thread for your issue, giving the title of the new thread, and advising those who wish to respond to do so in that new thread.
God bless you.
Jiminy
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