While I was in the MTC, one of the Apostles addressed us (can’t recall for sure who at that moment, would have to dig through an old journal) and spoke about ensuring that sins are completely confessed.
He told a story of when he was a boy riding a bicycle down a gravel road. I can’t recall the circumstances that lead to the crash, buy he ended up going over the handlebars and landing on the gravel road. When he landed, his thumb was pulled backwards, and the skin between the thumb and forefinger was ripped open.
When at the emergency room, he found that the cleaning of the wound was VERY painful, and he resisted. The Dr. gave him a choice – we can scrub out all of the dirt and fine gravel particles now while the wound is open, or we can stop with what we have done so far, and stitch it up. However, the Dr. warned him that were they to stop cleaning now and stitch it up, the likelihood was very high that either an infection would set in, or one of the pieces of foreign matter would become an irritant. If that happened, they would have to perform surgery to cut the hand open, cut out the problems, thereby restarting the entire healing process. The Dr. asked him if he wanted to go through more pain right now, once, or risk going thorough greater pains, scarring, and tissue damage later on.
He chose to have the full cleaning. And he likened that to our repentance processes, and how important it is to fully disclose everything upfront when the issue is still open and can be fully cleaned. It can be quite painful to reopen the issue later a second time.
If you have doubt that you fully confessed your sin, it will haunt you again and again in life. I know, I've been there. It's no fun to reopen old sins in an attempt to scrub them clean the second time. But it was necessary to feel comfortable and whole.
Know that your Bishop loves you. He is there to help you, not make you feel bad for what you have done, or to feel bad that there might be more to tell him about that you didn’t tell him the first time. He can help you feel better.
Obviously, I would urge you to see him again. You are obviously a very strong and courageous young woman. It took a lot to see him that first time. I’m confident you are strong enough to do it again.
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