There is perhaps in every religious (and non religious) a culture that happens. Culture does not always represent the truth, nor does it always help people be the most tolerant of difference or human weakness. I guess what I am trying to say is that there is sometimes intolerance on both sides of the equation. The tattoo lovers can't tolerate the tattoo objectors....etc etc. You see my point?
I think all of us want acceptance .....with our warts and weaknesses and all. I think first we must learn to accept where we are in our journey to Christ. I think once we give ourselves that gift, then we are more able to love others that way. We can let others be a little judgemental even and give them some acceptance and tolerance even if the situation isn't ideal for us. We change the world by changing ourselves.
And you know? There is that Relief Society stereo type. Heck, I been in the church a long time and used to buck against it too. But you know, I didn't really see the reality of the RS picture too clearly. I lumped everyone into that boat and decided that the only way to worship together was if I conformed. Now.....I don't see anyone really in the stereotype. In fact, the closer I look at real world LDS women, the less I see if I see it at all.
Maybe now you have grown up a bit. Maybe you can see more than you saw before. Give the RS another chance. The RS isn't about being crafty or being a good cook. It is about serving others and helping them and all of us Come unto Christ in whatever circumstance or with whatever personality the Lord blessed us with.
Welcome to the site. Would love to talk about rekindling faith as I am in process of rekindling myself.