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Originally Posted by Misshalfway
I am not so sure about going to his bishop as a first line of defense. I have a little experience here as the wife of an addict. If someone had gone around me, I can't explain the horror I would have felt. His humiliation is your mothers devastation and I promise you that dealing with this problem is better done in a controlled environment.
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I strongly disagree. Such codependent behavior serves no ones best interest. It does not serve the interest of templegoers who are in the temple at the same time as him, the boyscouts he works with, or even his wife who may be at risk of violent acts, or heaven forbid a serious STD. The mother/wife in this situation is already aware of the accusation, has had a chance to address it, and it is time to protect others even if she and the man in question won't acknowledge his problem.
While I can understand the empathy and concern for the wife, the situation is much bigger than her and any potentially maladaptive paradigms she might have to keep up appearances.