Now, let's see...
I learned about the physical elements of baby-making when I was in the first grade, it was part of the school program (for your reference: Canada, Catholic school). Some parts were taught by the teacher, and some at home by parents, with the same book - with anatomical drawing! But nobody really taught the 'moral' aspect to it, I think. In Gr. 7, I remember there was stuff about puberty, what's your period, that sort of stuff. But again, I can't say that there was a moral aspect to it.
I wouldn't be able to tell you who taught me to abstain till marriage, really. But I did grow up in the Catholic school system till I was 17, and in my church from 6 till now - I'm sure I picked it up somewhere along the way. I do remember who taught me to respect romantic relationships, though. I was about 12 or 13, and the person said something like: Treat your other person the way you would have wanted his last girlfriend (or boyfriend - I'm a girl) to have treated him. Do you want a guy that another girl has been all over? No, you don't. And you never know - any current relationship might end. He may have to face his special someone later - do you want to be the person that "ruins" that?
It meant a lot more to me then than it does to kids now, though, unfortunately. My kids that are about that same age now laugh at things like respect, it actually makes me sad and disappointed.
Btw, I'm 23, and my mom only decided to have "the talk" with me about 2 weeks ago. It went something like this: It's okay that you're dating, just don't get into bed with him. You haven't already, have you?
I later told her that she was about 10 years late in being a parent to me, and that by this point, any ideas I would have had regarding the topic would not have been swayed by her pitifully sad attempt at doing so. Spiteful? Yeah, a little. I do harbour some resentment that my mom didn't do very much to parent me when I was younger, but will do stuff like that now.
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