If this man is indeed a sexual predator, then these scouts do need to be protected. Maybe going to the bishop to try to get him released covertly might be of some value. I couldn't predict what this bishop might say.
Apparently this man is abusive. I wouldn't be surprised it he is very controlling. He will most certainly defend his secrets with what ever means he thinks he needs/or can get away with. I mean, what will he do when he leaves the bishops office? Go beat the crap out of his wife? Go verbally abuse her? What about this wife's safety? Does she have a place to go if she needs to get out? Has he been controlling her for years? Is her only safety being in denial? I wonder if her healthier defenses have been broken down over the years. I guess I would want answers to these questions before I could accurately comment.
If this son went to the bishop for counsel and asked for help in determining a proper solution or determining exactly what his responsibility would be, that is one thing. A good thing. But going in like gang busters.....I just don't know. Maybe gang busters is needed but I think the approach would be much more effective if all the players were on board with the confrontation and the plan for what to do when he resists. Mother, sister, bishop, son. All on the same powerful page.
Or......I don't know. Maybe this son needs to confront his father again and say that he must tell the bishop and his wife the truth..... OR he will tell the bishop himself and expose his secret to the extent of the family or maybe even report him to the police. Maybe he needs to do the same thing with the mother. Tell her that she needs to face/determine the truth or he will need to go to the bishop to at least protect the children. I mean, he could even contact the Boy Scouts of America and make a report.
I agree with Skippy, though. Changing these parents won't be easy. Inviting and putting down some boundaries is most certainly needed, but I am not sure what you can do with people who insist upon staying in their dysfunction. If the children in the ward are in danger, perhaps it is the OP's responsibility to at least make the bishop aware.
I am wondering if you have proof of child porn, then why not go to the police? Isn't this a legal issue as much as it is a spiritual one. The police will at least investigate. I wonder if they can investigate without this man knowing.
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