My opinion: the bishop needs to know what you found regardless of his response. His calling in the ward is enough of a reason to tell the bishop. What is done after that isn't up to you. If the bishop doesn't act then whatever happens afterwards will be on his head. I would start by asking the bishop if he had asked your father to develop a blocking system. If the bishop says no, that's your opening. Go from there. Of course the bishop will say no... protecting church computers from porn is done at the church offices, not on a ward level.
If you have proof give it to the bishop and the police.
As for your mother, she already knows. She's afraid of the fall out. She's hiding her head in the sand hoping that it will go away before it gets worse. Unfortunately, that's not how life happens. Problems must be addressed to be fixed. Be gentle with her but also be firm and honest.
I agree with others who have said your first responsibility is to protect your wife/child and yourself. Keep your wife and child away from your father until this is resolved. He's going to get angrier. Stand firm and be valiant.
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