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Originally Posted by Carl62
While everybody on here keeps saying 'go to the bishop...', what may be an even bigger and arguably more important step is to seek out someone who is truly specialized in these sorts of things. Maybe have the whole family go together and see a sexual addictions therapist/counselor to help sort out where these problems stem from and how to counter them. There is also counseling groups for sex addicts and even family members of sex addicts that you could look into as well. I know it may make some people feel better in talking to their bishops and I don't mean this in any disrespect, but a LOT of bishops are simply not professionally trained in handling these types of situations. They can be their if you need to have an ear to listen to ya, but you still may walk out with the problem barely resolved, if even at all. IMHO, I would look into the therapist first for quicker and more direct results.
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I think your right Carl--even though I said the Bishop.
I think the most important thing is Intervention--especially with one that is trained professionally in these areas. I would hope that even if he went to the Bishop first--that the Bishop would suggest some of the things you have.
The problem it seems--that the Father has no intention of doing either--so I think the son needs to give the Father the ultimatum of going to a Therapist/Counciling groups or else the Son needs to spill his guts to the Bishop--I'm sure eventually the Father will have to confront the Bishop about these things irregardless of the order, and I still think he needs to be removed as the Scoutmaster--pronto.
I don't necessarily like the idea of the 'Tattle Tale' approach either as someone mentioned earlier--but it just doesn't seem like the Father is going to take action and I think that somekind of intervention will likely keep the Dad out of the can--if the possibility of the Dad turning into a pedophile is there--then I think the Son is doing him a favor--even though I'm sure there will be some bad and hurtful feelings in the beginning.
There is definitley no easy approach to this problem--the embarassment of the Father would be overwhelming in a detailed confession to the Bishop.
But to continually trod under foot the Saviour with these behaviours is much more to worry about-- and have guilty feelings about--we are all guilty of sin in various ways and degrees--we all have our skeletons in the closet--at least I do.