Have you considered therapy? I think the 12 steps is wonderful, but imo, they should be used as one of the tools in ones recovery tool belt.
I think above all, you really have to want to change and that perhaps means challenging those parts of you that resist the change....you know, the appetite voice that wants it above other things. You gotta challenge everything about that voice including its logic, its justifications, its arguments with truth...etc. You gotta know your triggers....your patterns.....etc. Then you gotta change those up.
Don't do this alone. Get a friend or a RS pres or a bishop to be your go to person. Call them when you are tempted.
I would invite you to put the LDS basics back into your life. SA/PA thinking is full of lies and flatterings and a boat load of other crap.....the kind that entrenches you deeper and deeper in the addictive headspace. Flood your mind with spiritual truth. Open every opportunity for God to tell you the truth. The truthfulness of the gospel is perhaps irrelevant right in this moment. But that into your patience bin and exercise faith in your spiritual efforts. God will meet you there and lead you by the hand and open your mind and heart to the light.
You can also get into an online support group. There are a couple that are quite good. Some are even free. You can also get books that give you information and workbooks to help you unwind why you need this "drug" to begin with. They will help you restructure your thinking, and your behaviors.
I particularly like the author Carnes. He has a series of books that I think might help.
Good luck my dear. This is a toughy, but you CAN conquer. Stay away from the evil twins shame and blame. They won't get you anywhere good.
Much love.
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