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Originally Posted by Honor
Might be worth mentioning that it's not only about full disclosure, but also reacting to how your spouse feels about the situation.
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That's not even really it. There is a completely different purpose to friendship than to marriage. It is not about your spouse, it is about YOU. Whether he reacts negatively or not is irrelevant.
You need to be clear on what your purpose is for hanging out/spending time/emotionally investing in another person that is not your spouse. I don't sift friends according to gender - she can be my best friend because she's a girl, he can't because he's a guy? Why not? Friends are friends regardless of gender. Be clear on your purpose and make sure everybody understands it, especially your spouse. Of course, if he takes exception, then there may be something wrong with your marriage (trust issues) and you have to address that.