I do not have emotional affairs. I like people but there is no one that I would open up to like my wife. I do not trust anyone with personal things like I trust her. I have discovered, however that no matter what our intent there are things we should not do with the opposite sex. I travel a lot in my work – my wife loves travel but I really do not care to travel.
One of the engineers assigned to my team was a rather overdone female. I say over done because she did too much with herself. Too much make up, too much flirting, too much touching and stuff trying to get herself accepted. Other than that she was an okay engineer. During our traveling she made some personal confessions to me – I am really bad about this sort of thing; I just say what I think. In essence I told her to get herself together. I gave her a Book of Mormon (she was a member but had not been to church in 10 years). She confessed to me that she would like to go to church but did not want to go by herself. Now the dumb part for me. I told her I go all the time to church alone but if it would help her get back to it – she could come with me.
Okay, bringing someone to church when you are traveling is not very bright. Half the ward thought she was my wife. The other half thought I was having an affair. Why would someone bring a mistress to church? What I should have done was call the Relief Society President and gotten another female to take her. Part of the problem with these kinds of things is what other people think. I am sorry if I offend anyone but appearances can effect others and not always for the good. What we think may be okay for ourselves may not help others in a positive way.
Yes I did let my wife know but she thinks that me in an awkward situation is the very height of funny.
The Traveler
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