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Originally Posted by silvermoon
In reply to Will. That's great for you that you made all those wonderful decisions and everything turned out perfectly for you. Just so you know, my Father also had finished school, had a very well paying job, paid cash for cars, home everything. My older brothers and sisters knew of vacations, ate very well and had private tutors. Due to unplanned circumstances that were out of control, (his health was one of them) his financial situation changed for the worse. I am number 7 of eight, so it affected my little brother and me the most. I think you would be wise to take another look at what you are calling "mormon culture". The families that I know of that stay together and do not divorce over money are the families that the mother stays at home and does not go to work. And these families are not on welfare. It is extremely judgmental of you to assume that just because they are on one income that they are on welfare. And even if they are on welfare, it is none of your business. And if they are on welfare, it is not because they heeded the council of Prophets to not put off having children. You need to realize that even when someone puts their best foot forward and makes all the "right" decisions it doesn't always work out as planned. As with my family. My Father is very well qualified and has been his whole life.
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to the OP I know that financial circumstances can change as I have also gone through the issue of having a great paying job and loseing it in the past adn struggling to pay even basic bills... I understand that I do not know your situation and the circumstances surrounding it, I only wish you the best and hope that you come out of this ok.
Silvermoon if you read my post my wife stays at home and does not work, money is tighter than I want it to be, things have not worked out as I had them laid out, look how long it took me to get were I am at....and there are still things I want to accomplish and am not happy with.
I am not passing judgement on anyone so if you or anyone else takes my previous post personally sorry.
I am only making an observation about MY view of mormon culture, and my personal experiences lets face it the culture teachs us to marry young and start a family when we are least prepared for it, this should change people need to be more prepared......but trust me if you were the financial clerk of your ward it would SHOCK you to know who is on the church dole....there are people in my ward who have had kids knowing that they didn't have health insurance!!! thats just irresponsible...they end up on medicare ...and WIC.... MY tax dollars supporting their poor decisions....of course these types of programs are needed because the child bears no fault of the actions and irresponsibility of their parents..And I agree even when people try to put there best foot forward they may have issues health problems/ a struggling job market through no fault of there own, and assistance may be necessary.....