You are right, that would devistate her, I just want to be realistic, her expectations are quite high. If this problem isn't medical I will look into counseling.

At the same time, I'm looking for advise. I really don't want to hear "bragging" about how wonderful everybody's spouse and love life is. I already feel a measure of jealousy and envy and even a bit of hate when I see happy couples at church and know I'm so screwed up right now. So please try and be sensitive and don't post how good your love life is right now when offering advise.