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Originally Posted by annewandering
I disagree, Slamjet, on most points. Trust is great but caution is better. I want my husband to know so he wont ever wonder.
My marriage is more important than anything else including setting boundries between my husband and me.
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You are entitled to your opinion, and you're wrong!
I KID, I KID, now put down that flamethrower.
I agree with giving the spouse access, but I do not agree with "hey, there's a new girl at work. come by tomorrow so I can introduce you before our marriage explodes." That's the feeling I get from reading between the lines of the OP. There's a way to do it, and then there's the neurotic way. And besides, it borderlines on fostering a codependent relationship.
"I see you have a new female at work, why have you not introduced me?"
"Uhm, because, she just started, why, do you not trust me?"
"No, you are my spouse. If you don't tell me, or introduce me then you are untrustworthy."
"HON! I'm going to hang with George and his friends to watch the fight tonight."
"His friends? I don't know them. Aren't you going to take me and introduce me to them?"
"But hon, It's guys night out, what's wrong, don't you trust me?"
"What are you hiding? Do you go there to drink?"
"What?!?"
And the trust factor in the marriage starts to erode. There is a way to be open. If you open a new email account, tell your spouse and say "anytime you want, I'll give you the login info." instead of shoving it in their hand. So yes, I do agree on principle, but on practical application, not obsessive adherence.