One thing that I found that was very difficult at first was discerning between wants and needs.
When I first left my ex husband, my income was paltry and my expenses great. When I bought food, I had to choose between need and want. Did I really need that ice cream? Pie? Frozen Pizza, bakery bread? No to all of them, they all were Wants.
As I examined each item carefully before I put it in my cart, less and less Wants went into the cart and more and more needs did. I needed salt, yeast, flour and eggs. With all of that I could make the pizza crust and the bakery bread.
Then when it came to buying clothes,that was even harder. I had NO dresses or skirts. Buying dresses was good - but you can not mix and match them. So I bought skirts and blouses making sure that they were appropriate for Church. If they are good enough for church then they are perfect to wear out job hunting! I bought one skirt or a blouse each month. No matter what the price- just one a month!
I also went to the women in the Branch who wore modest clothing, and wore timeless lines and asked them to help me go clothes shopping. They were thrilled to help me and they were more than honest in telling me what looked good and what made my bum look huge
75% of my clothes came from Goodwill, St Vincent dePaul, Salvation Army and DI. The rest were from clearance sales at the retail stores.
The money I used to buy clothes with and to buy items for the house (shower curtain, real cheap pictures [from the Dollar Tree Store] etc), I got by cleaning homes on my days off. I had three houses I cleaned on a bi-monthly basis. After I paid tithing on it, that money was for my "Shopping" - clothes, knick knacks, music cds, paper, coloring things, etc.