Alright, Standards Too High For Dating? - Page 2

DisRuptive1 · #11 (**permalink**) 08-13-2004, 03:52 PM

Forget what other people think. Don't you think that the mixing of the genes is the best thing for a kid. Not to be racist or anything, but if two Chinese people have a child, won't they have Chinese traits? And if two black people have a child, won't the child be black? So if a white guy and a hispanic girl have a child don't you think that the chile with have traits of white people AND hispanic people? Maybe even the best of both worlds.

Nina · #12 (**permalink**) 08-17-2004, 11:21 PM

Holy cow !!! Don't worry about race period !!! First of all if your going on a mission having children with this girl is the last thing you have to be worried about at least for the next two or three years and second don't worry about race !!! There are millions of people of mixed heritage in the United States alone and it is more and more and more accepted (as it should be) and that will only continue as time goes on. If you are prayerful in your selection of a companion (after your mission) things will be as they should. And IMO keep those standards up !!!

Be happy and good luck preparing for your mission !!!

Matt · #13 (**permalink**) 08-21-2004, 06:34 PM

As a former Mormon I am going to advise you to... keep your high standards. Why? Because they are you. Don't pretend to be something you are not!

Lindy · #14 (**permalink**) 08-21-2004, 08:34 PM

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Originally posted by Matt@Aug 21 2004, 04:34 PM
As a former Mormon I am going to advise you to... keep your high standards. Why? Because they are you. Don't pretend to be something you are not!

THAT quote made my entire day!

Very good advice for the young man Matt!
And thanks for making my day as well!!

As for the question on the race thing...(IMO)....if she is faithful, honest, loyal, kind and loveable....then have a good time together...enjoy each others company before your missions....keep in touch if you want to, and serve honorable missions..... then talk about serious issues.
A little FYI.....where I live white/hispanic marriages are very common.....I don't think anyone even thinks twice about it.

kroboz · #15 (**permalink**) 08-22-2004, 12:16 AM

Thanks for the advice on the race. I'd go for it, but the Lord told me not to. I didn't understand until today, when I saw her talking to a missionary at his homecoming. I guess she's meant for him, which would be good for her. They'd make a nice couple.

Ah well. I know the Lord has someone out there for me, it's just starting to get to me how I'm so unselfish and would rather see someone I'm interested in with another guy who's better than me because it'd be better for her.

curvette · #16 (**permalink**) 08-25-2004, 10:46 PM

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Originally posted by kroboz@Aug 12 2004, 02:18 PM
Haha, I'm in LA. The issue, not problem, with race is that there is a lot of pressure on me to have white kids, and you never know how these things turn out. We'll both be getting back from our missions at the same time, and she's already joked about how that's perfect for us to get married. I have no problem dating or marrying people of another race, but I'm worried if it will be hard on our children or my parents.

You need to brush up on your science kiddo! Hispanics are part of the Caucasoid race--just like you. And we're all part of the human race. Now cultural issues are another thing altogether...

#17 (**permalink**) 08-26-2004, 09:06 PM

Curvette...
You get my favorite statement in this thread award!

toto · #18 (**permalink**) 09-08-2004, 07:13 PM

Even the little things matter. trust me

Matt · #19 (**permalink**) 09-11-2004, 02:16 PM

Maybe dating before a mission is not a good idea? Though as I am an ex-Mormon who never went on a mission, what would I know?

kroboz · #20 (**permalink**) 09-12-2004, 11:15 PM

Dating for fun before your mission is good for the experience so you don't come back without any idea on how to find a girl.

In any case, the hispanic girl I was talking about earlier really built my testimony: the Lord said no, and I didn't know why. I went to the camera store and back with her, and understood the beauty in the grand scheme of things. Hooray for the Lord protecting me from controlling, manipulating girls! I didn't really know much about her until I spent more time with her, and she's not for me. I don't mean to sound like I'm bitter against her, because I'm not. I'm glad I avoided a situation that would have been painful, especially as I prepare for a mission.