Alright, Standards Too High For Dating?

[speedomansam]

i think it's kinda stupid not to date a girl becaue she wears a sleaveless shirt. so what, who are we to judge. plus if you date her then you could be a great influence.

[kroboz]

Originally posted by speedomansam@Sep 17 2004, 03:25 PM
i think it's kinda stupid not to date a girl becaue she wears a sleaveless shirt. so what, who are we to judge. plus if you date her then you could be a great influence.

The thing is that I want someone who is almost obscenely hardcore like I am. (Yeah, I know it's kinda funny to describe the church as "hardcore.") What sleeveless shirts and belly poking out etc. represent to me is someone who isn't serious about living the Gospel to the fullest and who is still caught up in worldy fashions. I know that's a stereotype, and my best friend wears shirts like that and she is very dedicated to the Gospel. Her gospel priorities are in a different area. My point is that you make your very first impression of someone when you see them whether you think you do or not, and I want someone who wants to send out the right impression.

But you make a good point about the influence.

[toto]

In my opinion, just don't do it. There is way to much temptation involved. Why take the chance before your mission?

[gimpandproudofit]

please please keep your standards! coming from a girl who has tried so hard to be "hardcore" and not molly/just-plain-wierd- it sucks when i try so hard to dress modestly and stuff, and then guys really just don't care. if i knew that guys actually cared about stuff like that, then going through all the extra effort to fins (cute) modest prom dresses and even just normal clothes would seem a lot more worth it... thats just my opinion though .... and i think dating before your mission is ok- just don't get way serious or anything that would make for major distractions while you're gone! and as for race.... i totally understand the parental expectation thing... while there is definitely nothing wrong with marrying outside your race, i think it would be way hard with family and stuff.... people don't deal with change all that well, expecially with something big like that!

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[Ray]

Newsflash: we are all of the same race.

Why do people use the word “race” to refer to someone of a different culture? Seems strange to me. And understanding that we are talking about different cultures helps make it clear in my mind why people advise that it is best to stay within the same culture. But that doesn’t mean that the coming together of 2 different cultures is bad, or that people of different cultures can’t become good marriage partners. I think it’s good advice simply because people generally get along better with people from the same or similar circumstances.

I think of it kinda in the same way I think about 2 people coming together from different age groups. If I were 10 years older than my wife, there would be things in my childhood that she wouldn’t be able to relate to, or at least not in the same way as someone about the same age as me. The difference in the age of me and my wife is only 1 year, and that has helped us and continues to help us better understand each other.

I could also come up with more traits that usually help people to get along better, and while that wouldn’t mean that people with different traits can’t become happy together, I do believe that differences generally tend to complicate matters between two people.

[Writer_Chick1213]

I think its really great how you are keeping your standards and looking at dating from a positive perspective. Its nice to know that there are guys who still want a girl to keep her standards. I'm in the same position as you, its hard to find someone who is dedicated to the gospel and wants you to be the same way. Its ok to want someone "hardcore" the gospel, I do too. and i'm sure you'll find someone. So i hope everything works out for you!