Alright, Standards Too High For Dating?

[kroboz]

Alright, I'm an Eagle Scout, I earned my Duty to God, I earned my On My Honor, I've never drank alchohol, smoked, done drugs, broken the law of chastity, and the only thing that came close to breaking the word of Wisdom is my Mountain Dew addiction I've overcome.

So I'm only interested in dating girls that are as straight-edge LDS as me. Problem is, most of the young ladies around here that aren't weird aren't that straight edge. It's mostly modesty stuff, ie sleeveless shirts, which I know isn't a big deal, but you can probably see what I mean.

My question is if I should not be so worried about the little things before my mission and just look past what probably doesn't matter. I want to date before my mission, but I want to keep my standards up, too.

Any advice?

PS
sorry for the grammatical errors I know are there. I'm very tired. ^_^

[deepthinker]

it may seem, even to you, that your standards are silly, but having them is waht matters. if you begin to leave allowances on these things, it makes you wonder, what's next? if you have set forth standards for yourself, even if they seem a little too strict, i think that, if you've set them, you shoudl stick to them.

If you're thinking about a mission....just date to have fun. Don't date for any seriousness. When you get back...remember not to shoot so high that you miss out entirely...but keep good standards.

You might be missing out on a lot of good friendships from those girls who wear sleeveless shirts.

If you just can't get past the ideal...then stick w/ it. I am sure after your mission, you will find some girl who will meet all of your desires and you'll be a happy camper. Don't put so much pressure on yourself right now...there's plenty of time for that.

[iamalighthouse]

Do the girls know you have a problem with the sleevless stuff? Some of them may change cause chances are they want to find a strong man in the church. They may not realize that they're not gonna find one the way they dress. I know a few of my friends are like that. They're trying to change though. GIve them a chance.

[kroboz]

Alright. Thanks for the advice.

I found someone that does follow the standards, etc. She's great. The only problem is she's hispanic, and I'm white, and that's a whole different topic.

[Franken]

What would be the problem with her race. Yeah, I guess it seems uncommon to see a couple like that, but if she really has those good standards like you say, then go for it.

[lurker]

Yeah, I guess it seems uncommon to see a couple like that

Geez, where are you guys from??

[kroboz]

Haha, I'm in LA. The issue, not problem, with race is that there is a lot of pressure on me to have white kids, and you never know how these things turn out. We'll both be getting back from our missions at the same time, and she's already joked about how that's perfect for us to get married. I have no problem dating or marrying people of another race, but I'm worried if it will be hard on our children or my parents.

[Franken]

Geez, where are you guys from??

Well I am from Utah mind you, and it's just not something you see that often. I'm not sayin there is anything wrong with it at all, ya just don't see it that often, at least not around here.

Haha, I'm in LA.* The issue, not problem, with race is that there is a lot of pressure on me to have white kids, and you never know how these things turn out.* We'll both be getting back from our missions at the same time, and she's already joked about how that's perfect for us to get married.* I have no problem dating or marrying people of another race, but I'm worried if it will be hard on our children or my parents.

Sure things might be hard, but is that really going to stop you?

[kroboz]

No, it won't stop me. I'm just worried there might be problems. There probably won't be any other than an offhand comment, but you know, there's still that uncertanty.