clashes with my husband and my family

[lilered]

In my view, this is an issue that can only be handled with prayer, love, and patience. If you and your husband kneel in prayer at night, you might want to ask the Lord for his help in resolving this conflict without pointing a finger at your husband directly. Secondly, ask your husband to please make a better effort to get along, and that you would considerate it a huge personal favor because you love him and your family and it means a lot to you. Encourage him and praise him if he responds. Make sure you acknowledge him when they are around. Someone has to make the effort and it seems to me that it is really important to you, thus it falls on your shoulders. He should respond, if not, then at least you have made a serious effort and sought the Lords help in doing so.

[jjrogers]

My dh's mother and sister treated me very badly the first couple years of marriage. Loads of gossip ect. Just really nasty stuff. But they were very careful to never do it around my dh. Then one day he happened to hear his mother trashing his father to an aunt he doesn't respect. That coupled with him catching them concerning with stuff they were saying about me really opened up his eyes that I wasn't being nasty or making stuff up. That they really were doing the things I said they were doing. He ended up confronting his mother over something. She is not a big part of our life now. He chose me. Unfortunately she did this to another brother and the brother took his mother's side and they have had major marital problems for the last 10 years because his wife is not number 1, mommy still is. You need to choose your husband. He is the one you will be living with for eternity. Not your parents and siblings.(or we would all live with adam and it would be a bit crowded.) Maybe it bothers you when he says things about your family because there is truth there you don't want to admit or see. Maybe he can tell that he doesn't come first in your life. So what if sometimes he says the wrong thing. We all do that. It is your family that chooses to be upset. Why do you expect that he should be so perfect? Are you perfect in all of your relationships? Can you honestly say you are a better person and wife than he is as a person and husband?