"It'll be okay." Fine. When?

[VisionOfLehi]

I've heard this so many times in the past several years.

Every time I go through a difficult time... People tell me:

"It'll be okay."
"It'll all work out."
"This'll go away."

Well, when?


God won't give me more than I can endure, but He's cutting it close.

[MarginOfError]

Thosre are words of advice that I sarcastically rank as most helpful right after the following words when someone has broken up:

"There are other fish in the sea."
"You'll find someone else."

Too many people don't realize that the healing process involves a certain amount of suffering. Sorry about God cutting it so close for you. Let's get together sometime, watch some tear jerkers, eat chocolate, and complain about getting fat sometime :-)

All my best.

[miztrniceguy]

be patient. tell Him in prayer you have faith that He has a plan for you and you trust that things will work out. hopefully He will send a good feeling

[Loudmouth_Mormon]

I guess it all comes down to what you think "it'll be okay" means. I'm relatively certain that through the atonement of Christ, all mankind may be saved, through obedience to the laws and ordinances of the gospel. So in that sense, yes, it will all be ok.

But there can be an awfully big number of decades full of "endure to the end" involved. And those decades can indeed be full of things that are not ok, and probably won't be ok any time soon.

LM

[Gwen]

i need some chocolate and a good cry, can i join in too?

[Misshalfway]

LM, I love your post! I think it is so wise. God's time and His vast purposes are sometimes so unknown for us.

I don't always know why, but I do know that God does let us go the distance in our trials sometimes. I suppose that is part of trusting that God is working out something bigger or perhaps more broad for us. Once I went thru a trial with my health and plead with the Lord over what seemed like an unfair trial. My answer was that the trial wasn't for me -- it was for one of my loved ones. My trial with my health isn't over and may never be. But I have made friends with it and I see many blessings because of it.

I read once that things happen "for" us, not "to" us. There is a blessing....a gift in every experience if we decide to look for it.

[Islander]

Feeling frustrated on the face of such statements is a human reaction rather than a spiritual one. The Savior said: “In the world ye shall have tribulation.” (John 16:33.). The apostle Paul referred to a "thorn in the flesh" that afflicted him thus he went to the Lord for relief three times. And the Lord said to him: "My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness." 2 Cor 12:9.

I understand that aspirations and dreams are frustrated by the harsh realities and challenges we face. The Lord is aware of them and seeking comfort, solace and strength in Him is our only choice. The alternative, almost always, would be suggested by the devil and thus contrary to the will of God.

My own personal favorite: "And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good." D&C 127:7

So, my friend, DO hang in there. You will be fine and the Lord will be your support and know that the Savior endured for you and me what no other mortal being could have. My grandmother said to me once, "...know my son, that one day your faith will be the one thing to save you from certain death."

And it did. My prayers are with you.

[StrawberryFields]

Nice Thread.

When will we be fine? That is quite the question. Sometimes it can be a matter of mind set. Sometimes it is after we take action. Sometimes it is after the trial is over.

My new love is doing research on my family who has gone on before me. Understanding a little more about the suffering of the saints and those who have lived 100's of years ago I have it very easy. Sometimes it is more about perspective and how we choose to see where we are.

Hugs to all who are suffering, SF

[richlittell]

Go easy on people who say trite things. They're just trying to be nice. Most of us really don't know what to say to someone when they're having trouble. What would you say? "Get over it" or "Welcome to reality"

[MorningStar]

When I thought I was infertile (tried for two years to have our first baby), a lot of people said, "It will happen." It did eventually, but I thought, "You don't know that!"