How To Become A Bfs &gfs Question!

[mojojo1984]

hello everyone i'm Joe. i got a question about boyfriends and girlfriends and how you become one,see i don't know what it is like to have a girlfriend i never been on a date. we just move back to my home state west virginia yes i know i'm a red neck. but i have grandparents and family there. i was kind of dispointed when there was only one single ward near huntington and charleston. the single ward is really a branch. so it's small. i later found out the single ward is different from. the ward my parents go to is the same where the singles meet. but the singles meet up different they have things backwards. so sunday school is the last class i go before going home with my family. well i finally went to sunday school. the second sunday we move. and notice this girl. she was asian. she had short black and brown hair. and wear glassess too. i was so scared i had to wait until the third sunday to talk to her. i gave her my phone number and e-mail address. she said she couldn't date right now. i guess because she's in college or work. i hope to talk to her this sunday i was going to talk to her one sunday but we went to my mom's old chruch in logan to thier lunch in. anyway i'm little shy i try not to be but i am. i hope not to be too shy to ask for her e-mail address. i hope she will get it to me and maybe i can get to know her better. and maybe have the gus to ask her out. it's kind of sad i'm 20 and never dated or have a car. sometimes i picture my first date with her. and i'm little worried how do you become a boyfriend and girlfriend couple. i'm worry she will only have one date. and i'm worried she's not the one for me and i'll never find someone in west virginia. the single ward is small and doesn't have many young women. cananyone help me?
-Joe

[Matt]

Well, why not ask her out on a nice, simple date? A pizza, or something similar?

Good luck.

[mojojo1984]

thanks matt,
i ask her out but she said she busy and today i ask her for her e-mail address but she said she doesn't do e-mails. i think she's not interest in me. and doesn't want to date me. i have friend who has a cousin going to college here so i could talk to her. but she might not be a member.
-Joe

[Matt]

Well, at least you tried. Keep on trying. But with other women, maybe? And some people think being a man is easy!

[Ray]

I suggest that you try not to imagine too much happening when you go out on a date, or in other words, don’t allow yourself to get all worked up over it.

I understand what you’re feeling, though. You’re feeling lonely, you’re wanting your loneliness to be over, and you’re hoping that the next girl you meet will be the one to end all of your loneliness. But that’s a lot of pressure to put on one woman, and on yourself.

Instead, I recommend that you get comfortable with yourself first. That way you’ll be able to enjoy yourself with whoever you are with, and you won’t be expecting someone else to supply all of your emotional and social needs. You will then be seen as a person of strength or fortitude, instead of someone who is desperate to find someone to ease your sense of loneliness.

And here’s a big tip for you…. women are attracted to men of strength, men who know what they want and are not afraid to do what they need to do to get it. This applies to women in general. To be attractive to a woman of virtue, you must be a man who is strong in virtue, in contrast to a man who is only physically or financially strong. To a virtuous woman, a virtuous man is more attractive than any other kind of man, and the more strength you have to be a virtuous man, the more attractive you will be to virtuous women.

Oh, one more thing that you might not know is that a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship is formed by a boy and girl spending more and more time together, to the point that that boy and girl only go out with each other. Don’t worry about expressing affection, or in other words, don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it. If the girl you want to go out with keeps saying Yes every time you ask her to go out with you, that should tell you that she is interested in becoming a good friend, and a girlfriend is simply the very best of your girl friends.