Alright, I Think I Need To Get My Best Friend...

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Originally posted by Cyra@Nov 12 2004, 11:55 AM
Open your eyes dear boy. This girl likes you, and wants you. But, she is also immature and does not know how to handle the fact that you do not like her on the same level that she likes you.

I've seen that for a while, I've just been playing dumb to it because I leave for my mission in a month and a half, and she's already got a missionary out and I don't want to make things weird when I get back after him.

This is very common in high school age girls.* If you like her as a friend and want to only be a friend and nothing more, you must always be honest with her. Let her know that you enjoy her friendship, but that is all it can be. She willl not like it, but as long as you are always honest, the feelings will not be as badly hurt.

Heh, we're both 19, and in out second year of college. :P Anyway, I've done a lot of thinking and praying about it, and I don't think a Define the Relationship where I tell her that I'm not romantically interested in her at all would be the best right now. And to be completely honest, I can see us in a marriage down the line. Will it happen? Is she my eternal companion? For starters, I'm not going to know right now because my job is to go on a mission, and the Lord will reveal that when it's the correct time. And I don't want to start talking like we're going to get married with her because of the fact that we are above all the simple "petty" (for lack of a better word) relationship stuff, and I think that kind of talk would just set us both up for an unpleasant situation if things don't work out in the future.

Okay, onto what I meant to say.

I completely forgot I had this topic still open. I kind of did get her out of my life for a bit. And the rest of my friends. I was being completely deceived by the adversary into thinking that I was meant to be completely alone until my mission, and that I didn't need friends or anyone to help me along. I thought I was bringing a bad spirit into the institute of religion I go to and that I shouldn't go there anymore for the sake of others. I honestly thought that I was doing what was best for others. I thought that my job of helping and supporting my friends was done, and I was basically stuck in this deceit for a month. (I am amazed at how well orchestrated this whole thing was, and how the little things here and there to discourage me were like clockwork. I now see the methods of the adversary, and how strong an influence he can be on you without you even knowing it.)

Then, my friend IMed me one day, and we went to lunch.

Somehow, without her even knowing it, she made everything that had gone wrong in the last 4 months go away and be all better. That night I could suddenly see how I was being deceived and didn't even realize it, and I was completely free of the evil, bitter influence. It was weird, it felt like I was suddenly released from prison or mind control or something. She has a wonderful habit of saying exactly what I need to hear without realizing it. Anyway, I've felt so good this week! I'd be driving or just going throughout the day, and I'd be so happy for no reason.

So yeah. I can see now it wasn't the Lord telling me to get my friends out of my life. Everyone needs someone; that's the Lord's plan. That's why you have a companion on your mission, and that's why you choose an eternal companion. I was completely fooled into thinking otherwise, and I was blinded to my deceit.

So, take this story as a lesson for all. Surround yourself with good friends that love you and will help you in your time of need.