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Can anyone help me to help my son. He's 15. He and I are the only members in our family and he is really struggling. He doesn't want to go to church anymore. He has a testimony he just doesn't like going to church and the more he feels resentful about going I know the more his testimony will die. His only friend at church has gone less active and he sees all the things his other friends and family are going out and doing on a Sunday and that makes him feel even less like going.

Does anyone have any motivational quotes I could give him or maybe how can I explain to him how important and special it is to hold the priesthood?

How else can I help him?

I don't want to lose him at church.

I admit I have been struggling badly with my depression at the moment and find it really hard to motivate myself. I feel like I'm letting him down and don't know what to do.
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If he has the priesthood, he should by now, then talk with his Aaronic priesthood leaders. I always reminded my son that he was different than other boys that he was in school with because he held the priesthood.

Also great talks online from Priesthood session directed to the young men of the church.

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There is a wonderful talk by President Faust directed to the Young Men about the power of the Priesthood and how special it is.

LDS.org - Ensign Article - “By What Power … Have Ye Done This?â€
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Can anyone help me to help my son. He's 15. He and I are the only members in our family and he is really struggling. He doesn't want to go to church anymore. He has a testimony he just doesn't like going to church and the more he feels resentful about going I know the more his testimony will die. His only friend at church has gone less active and he sees all the things his other friends and family are going out and doing on a Sunday and that makes him feel even less like going.

Does anyone have any motivational quotes I could give him or maybe how can I explain to him how important and special it is to hold the priesthood?

How else can I help him?

I don't want to lose him at church.

I admit I have been struggling badly with my depression at the moment and find it really hard to motivate myself. I feel like I'm letting him down and don't know what to do.
What was the reason why he doesn't want to attend?
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Do you have good home teachers? Do they visit every month? Having strong male role models associated with the Church can be very beneficial.
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If he has the priesthood, he should by now, then talk with his Aaronic priesthood leaders. I always reminded my son that he was different than other boys that he was in school with because he held the priesthood.

Also great talks online from Priesthood session directed to the young men of the church.

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He does have the priesthood

I have made a request for him to talk to his priesthood leaders. I'm waiting for them to get back to me.

I will read and study the priesthood session and maybe go through it with him.

He did attend priesthood session of conference but he said he didn't really listen or take it in.

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There is a wonderful talk by President Faust directed to the Young Men about the power of the Priesthood and how special it is.

LDS.org - Ensign Article - “By What Power … Have Ye Done This?â€
Thankyou Pam I will read that also and share it with him.
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What was the reason why he doesn't want to attend?
Hemi, He initially said it was because he wanted to be out having fun with his family and friends but this morning he says his testimony is wavering.
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Do you have good home teachers? Do they visit every month? Having strong male role models associated with the Church can be very beneficial.
I am very fortunate in the fact that I have very good hometeachers. They have been an incredible support to me but my son doesn't seem to have much of a relationship with them. The ward has tried to fellowship him but he just isn't responding.

This morning he has told me he is not going to come again. I feel devastated. I guess I'm on my own now.
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Mirium;
My heart goes out to you, and your son. I do not have any ideas/advice different than what has already been given.
I do, however, have a 15 year old son! He is pushing the edge on anything and everything. He invents new ways to manipulate me/situations!

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He initially said it was because he wanted to be out having fun with his family and friends
At 15, I can sooo see that being a reason to not want to go to church.

I do not give this as advice for you, and probably many will think I would be wrong in this, BUT I do not give my 15 year old an option. I am responsible for the path he travels at this time, so he will do it my way. At 18, he can choose his own path.

That being said, your 15 year old may be more mature than mine, and capable of such a decision...
my prayers will be with both of you.
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