How young is too young? -- Thoughts anyone?

[DeborahC]

I personally think that if you two love each other, you should get married.
You can support each other while you both finish college, and put off children until you're ready.
But I'll tell you what, I had my first child at 19 and there is a REASON we become of childbearing age at 19 -- we're strong and able to chase kids, that's why!

I took care of my granddaughter all weekend and after about 5 hours, I was totally exhausted. Her mother waited until age 35 to have her, and boy, is she sorry! I don't care what anyone says, it's harder to chase kids after 30 than it is at 19 or 20!!

A career is fine... but our goal isn't Eternal Careers... we're working for Eternal FAMILIES, right?

[DeborahC]

And as far as what's "too young" .... puberty is there for a reason... biologically we are ready to have children while we are young and strong. It's society that is responsible for putting off marriage so long. My grandmothers were all married by 14 and having kids early. They had strong marriages that lasted until death. But that's what was expected of them back then. Now divorce is the norm. I do have one grandmother who has been married several times because she outlived all of her husbands. My mother was divorced very eary and my grandparents reared me. I personally have been a failure at marraige, but I blame that on my own faults.

[ztodd]

I definitely think it depends on the people, but there are a lot of 21 year old r.m. guys and 19 year old young women getting married! And I think a lot of them are probably "old enough", and probably a lot of them aren't.