Depressed But Trying

[hotfireman3]

I am in you situation but I am not pregnant, and I am a guy. I have no one to talk to... exspressing my hurtful feeling has always been hard to do for me face to face but it is always eaier to write them down. I have a very low self esteem, and I have struggled with this for several years. My wife and three kids moved to a new area and I have no friends or family near by to talk to I dont know anyone in the ward to go and talk to I am really thinking about going to LDS sociel services to get some help. I guess I just need to go and talk to my bishop and get some help. sorry for rambling on but I just need someone to talk to.

[Palerider]

I am in you situation but I am not pregnant, and I am a guy. I have no one to talk to... exspressing my hurtful feeling has always been hard to do for me face to face but it is always eaier to write them down. I have a very low self esteem, and I have struggled with this for several years. My wife and three kids moved to a new area and I have no friends or family near by to talk to I dont know anyone in the ward to go and talk to I am really thinking about going to LDS sociel services to get some help. I guess I just need to go and talk to my bishop and get some help. sorry for rambling on but I just need someone to talk to.
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You just answered your own question......thats exactly what you need to do....see your Bishop and go too LDS Social Services

[Lindy]

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I am in you situation but I am not pregnant, and I am a guy. I have no one to talk to... exspressing my hurtful feeling has always been hard to do for me face to face but it is always eaier to write them down. I have a very low self esteem, and I have struggled with this for several years. My wife and three kids moved to a new area and I have no friends or family near by to talk to I dont know anyone in the ward to go and talk to I am really thinking about going to LDS sociel services to get some help. I guess I just need to go and talk to my bishop and get some help. sorry for rambling on but I just need someone to talk to.[/b]

You just answered your own question......thats exactly what you need to do....see your Bishop and go too LDS Social Services[/b][/quote]

Fireman.... I agree with Palerider....he's giving you excellent advice... Sometimes we do need some extra help to make it through.
And hey, you found a great board to come to, but I really suggest you talk to your bishop too, that's why he's there.

Welcome to the board

[aportmann]

I love Palerider's quote in the signature: "A testimony is fragile. It is as hard to hold as a moonbeam. It is something you have to recapture everyday of your life.....Harold B. Lee." I recently used this in a Sacrament talk.

I do know the feeling of being a new Mom and not feeling a part of a group. We moved to our home just over two years ago when my daughter was about 1 1/2 months. Because I was always in the hall with my daughter I wasn't able to be apart of Relief Society lesson or get the spiritual messages from Sunday School. And about five months after moving into the ward I was put in the nursery. I'm sorry, but after about 15 months I think the whole nursery idea was a mistake. For a new mother, moving from the city to the country and not having any "young" neighbors, this was HARD! I am now in the Young Women's and glad for the adult interaction and also being able to hold a conversation with the girls in my class.

I'm not exactly sure the advice I would give you, other than try to reach out. I did, and for awhile I did really well, but throughout the summer it's just been my daughter and me. Maybe I've let myself get away from my friends, but I am kind of doing okay. Then again, I'm hoping to get a new topic started that will show that, in a way, I'm not!

[MaidservantX]

Having a nine month old (nursing? You don't have to answer) and expecting makes an enormous physical drain on a woman's body. That seems obvious, but we sometimes forget. We think we are supposed to be perky or that perky equals faith. You might not have any physical resources left over for emotions, because emotions are physical -- they require molecules, etc. I hope you will consider making sure you have enough water and nutritional support and never begrudge yourself rest and sleep, even a lot more than you think you 'ought' to have. That is depression TELLING you to SLEEP, REST and LET ME GROW THIS BABY AND PRODUCE MILK FOR THE OTHER ONE. Eat salad, take a quality vitamin, avoid sugar and processed foods, eat quality protein, quality grains. I have been depressed most of my life -- until I stopped having babies. Then it finally came to me that I had not respected my body and the great work it was doing -- it was always in the process of REPRODUCING and I didn't have enough for it really, so there was never anything left over for emotions or what one might call daily coping. I had five years between my last one, and I must say I got quite perky. I have my sixth baby now, and I tried to give to myself a little more this time and ALLOW it all to take time, especially good food and good sleep. I know it is easier said than done, especially as babies get to be toddlers and you are still having babies, but at least realize the situation.