Depressed But Trying

Katrina523 · #1 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 01:54 PM

I'm new on here. It seems like whenever I get lonely I try to come on the interent to find another member friend. I have been in my area for 2 1/2 years and haven't been able to develop any lasting friendships. My husband tells me that I'm just reserved and to give it time. The problem is when I need a sholder to cry on and I don't have anyone to turn to because me husband's at work. I would love to talk to my family but that's out of the question when it comes to emotions. Life just gets so lonely. My daughter is 9 months old and I'm 2 mmonths pregant and worried about being completely isolated. I go to Enrichment and ladies night and everything that I possibly can but I don't seem to connect with those around me. What should I don? This has been the biggest challenge that I've faced since getting married. Pease help.

Ray · #2 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 02:13 PM

Aside from praying to our heavenly Father, and talking to your husband when he IS available, I think you’ve done a good thing by joining LDSTalk. We have lots of good sisters here who love to talk, and the more the merrier.

Btw, I've noticed that women seem to need to vent more than men, so feel free to express whatever you want to say while knowing that another sister will reply to you soon.

toto · #3 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 05:23 PM

Hey Katrina.

I can't understand personally what you are going through because I'm only 17 but I can relate to having nobody to talk to.
It's real tough.

but don't lose hope. When I feel alone, I talk to myself. Sounds weird I know, but what else do I do, hold stuff in?

Try to remember how blessed you are to have a home, a husband, a beautiful child. Thank of all the things you are personally blessed with that many others might not be.

Don't let the little things get you down. Notice how your baby smiles or the sun shines through the window. Read some good books, listen to music. These are things that can help you feel better.

Remember that we are all sent here to have trials. To grow from them. Heavenly Father has not forgot you. Ask him for help, he will give it to you.

Talk to someone who has no friends too. You'll have something in common. Write in your journal. Talk to your 9 month old. Write your husband letters.

Do anything that makes you happy, do not hold your emotions in.

Read the scriptures, they have great guidance in them. The people in them were blessed for how they dealt with hard times. You can get through this. It takes time.

Never forget how special we all are.

DisRuptive1 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 06:22 PM

Lol this is funny. A woman having problems and a woman hasn't even answered. Oh man that isn't good for her.

Ray · #5 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 06:37 PM

You can ignore that last post, Katrina. He isn't called disruptive for nothing!

And as I said, you don't have to wait for a sister to respond to you if you want to go ahead and start talking.

Laureltree · #6 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 07:00 PM

Katrina,

Try getting together with other sister in your ward, you will find you are far from alone. Feelings of being lonely during pregnancy , after, and even when we are not it is part of being a woman......We need to be around others, its apart of our nature and its healthy. Try starting a young toddler group I bet there are allot of moms who would love to go.

Laureltree · #7 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 07:02 PM

And if you ever need an ear, there are a group of us here that get together online to chat, come join us.....

Where are you from?

Lindy · #8 (**permalink**) 08-30-2005, 07:18 PM

Hey Katrina523~
Howdy, and welcome to the board

This is a great place to come to when you find yourself bored or depressed about something..... I agree with Ray and LT...there are great people on this board...I have made some great friends.... yes there are some knuckleheads on board too, but we still love them, cause they are part of our little board family.
There are topics of all kinds to read, to answer or just laugh at.

Seriously though Katrina, there are some women on board who are mothers, and women who have been there, gone thru it and know what's its like. The chat room is a great place to get to know some people, and let things off your chest if need be.
You are going to have your hands full young lady with a baby and a baby on the way..... we have a lot of shoulders to cry on here.....

DisR 1...... I guess it's looking better and better for her now huh? :P

Aussiegirl · #9 (**permalink**) 09-01-2005, 12:06 AM

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Hello Katrina,
I like you can feel lonely also. It is strange how we can be in a crowded room or be at home with hubby and still feel lonely. This has happened to me many times and sometimes it is hard to explain to people how you feel when they may have not felt these feelings themselves.. I to am new to lds talk I used to be part of the old one till they changed the format on me and I had to rejoin again

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I do not have a family yet but I am looking forward to having one. Perhaps being at home with the little one is making you feel lonely and no one to talk to. I find chat rooms on line can be good I have made lots of friends like this but they can't replace the live interaction that we sometimes crave as women.

As women we like to have someone to talk to. I have just moved home towns and I am attending a branch which just has 5 Relief Society sisters and it is weird as I have always attended wards and branches where there is more than 5 RS sisters but I know that we will grow close (hopefully) because we are a small group.

Well I know I am half rambling on here but I know what you are talking about been there done that and still experiencing it.

Aussiegirl

P.s the name disruptive huh sounds like a typical male and is not married I would gather :P

quentin · #10 (**permalink**) 09-03-2005, 01:30 AM

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Originally posted by Katrina523@Aug 30 2005, 12:54 PM
I'm new on here.* It seems like whenever I get lonely I try to come on the interent to find another member friend.* I have been in my area for 2 1/2 years and haven't been able to develop any lasting friendships.* My husband tells me that I'm just reserved and to give it time.* The problem is when I need a sholder to cry on and I don't have anyone to turn to because me husband's at work.* I would love to talk to my family but that's out of the question when it comes to emotions.* Life just gets so lonely.* My daughter is 9 months old and I'm 2 mmonths pregant and worried about being completely isolated.* I go to Enrichment and ladies night and everything that I possibly can but I don't seem to connect with those around me.* What should I don?* This has been the biggest challenge that I've faced since getting married.* Pease help.

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if this is ur biggest challange than thank ur lucky stars. it sounds like ur stuck in mommy mode and wife mode and forgot who u were before those two took over dont be scared to inform ur husband that u need his help and that u are more important than any job i know my wife has also get checked out for dep. dont be scared to make friends check ur local libary for story time and play times meet other stay at home moms who might be able to help u out